Sunday, September 12, 2010

Two (at least) sides to every story.

These past few weeks have been some of the hardest we’ve ever dealt with. Not just from a ministry perspective, but from a LIFE perspective.

I have been largely silent on the issue of the change of leadership in Joy in Hope/Haitian Children’s Home as I’ve felt a prompting to “rise above” the untrue and hurtful things that were being said about my family, specifically my husband. But I can be silent no more and feel I must explain the tensions we’re currently walking in.

Here are some of the facts of the issue for all you “facts people.” I want to go into more detail, but I am unsure of what I can legally share.

1. After what the Board of Directors decided to be a series of “irreconcilable breaches of trust” (I am tired of that expression, but it’s all I can give you now) with Danny Pye, he was removed from a leadership capacity in Joy in Hope/Haitian Children's Home. This occurred August 29, 2010. The full intention of the Board was to keep Danny and Leann in their roles as houseparents and give them a hiatus from responsibilities to spend time intentionally building their family and marriage.

2. Between August 29 and Sept 3, there was another series of events/discoveries that lead the Board to decide to remove Danny and Leann as houseparents. A generous bridge of support was offered to the Pyes, but as of yet, has not been accepted.

3. Nick stepped into the role as “acting director” from a Haiti side until a new director can be found.

4. Since this has happened, we’ve received 8 death threats resulting in us having to increase security, and confine ourselves and kids to secured areas (ie- traveling with armed guards, etc.)

5. Since this has happened, the birth certificates of 5 of our Haitian children have been held hostage by a Joy in Hope employee who was terminated.

Here’s a few of the feelings we’re feeling as we process all of this:

1. We are sad. We are so sad. I have cried myself to sleep a half a dozen times in the past two weeks. I have cried (like really cried-- the UGLY cry) every single day.

2. We are scared. We are scared for our safety. We are scared for our future. We are scared because we don’t live in a place where justice always reigns.

3. We are anxious. I didn’t eat for three days after this all went down. I have had constant diarrhea. My hair is falling out. I have a mouth full of canker sores. I am trying to "turn all of these anxieties into prayers," as the Christian in me knows I should, but it is very overwhelming.

4. We are angry. We are angry that we’ve been lied to and we are hurting. We are angry that lies are being spread about our family within the community.

Here is what we know:

1. God is on the throne. His plan will prevail even through this.

2. Building our family here in Haiti remains the only reason we stay here to endure this. We love all 10 of our children with a forever love that keeps us walking on as we fill roles we never wanted or intended to fill. God promises not to leave us as orphans in John 14:18. That is why we were created-- to walk in family with God. That is what we cling to as we trudge through this.

Thanks for letting me share my heart...

Thank you for your support.

Thank you for trusting us even when it's "messy."

Love, Gwenn


  1. I can't begin to understand the pain and the hurt ... but I can pray!!

  2. there are armies of angels sent on your behalf the gaurd you and yours body soul and spirit. know also that an army of facebook friends are holding up your arms as you fight through this. you are loved!!!

  3. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope this is resolved quickly and you can move on.


  4. Hi Gwenn, I will be praying for you and your family. Covering you all with God's love and protection.

  5. Been on the side of the bad remarks and ugliness, and know how stressful it can be and how hard physically on the body. (And I didn't even have death threats to deal with--just lies, and losing lots of friends--as well as our whole way of life being altered since it involved our church as well--and that's all I can say publicly on that.) I'm thankful that 10 years or so later, God has started to restore what was taken from us with lies. . . I'm praying for SAFETY AND CALMNESS and HEALING OF BODY AND SOUL and WISDOM for you.

  6. Praying for you & your family... so sorry that you & your family have to deal with all this. Praying that this can be resolved quickly and that the truth will be revealed to all....

  7. Love you and will pray. Hugs going your way.

  8. Praying Psalm 88&86 over you/yours.

  9. A friend told me a week or two ago that she was praying Psalm 23 over my family. Specifically verse 5 - "Thou preparest a table before me in thew presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my ccup runnesth over." I asked Josh what that could mean to our situation. His response was something along the lines of, "We won't be pulled down to their level. We will continue to be blessed by God, even though 'they' think we are in the wrong."

    Gwenn, I pray that you CAN anoint your head with oil (praise God in your circumstances), and that your cup runneth over (you have done a great job taking and posting before and after pics of the kids...I say your cup runneth over!;) ), and that in the end...God will get all the glory, honor and praise!

  10. I love you guys - I am praying. I recall vividly how horrible it felt when we left the mission we worked at for the first two and half years and the leadership told horrible lies about us. It is so hard to keep from getting sucked into that madness -- it hurt like hell - but HE is your defender and He always does His job!

  11. The ministry is doing God's work, so it is being attacked by the adversary. Praying for you all.

  12. Gwenn, I had no idea....I have nothing to ease your pain but know we will be praying for you and your family...

  13. I am so sorry! Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  14. Your constancy during this incredibly trying time is inspiring. Your faith has truly been Job-like. God bless you both. Du

  15. I am so sorry that you are experiencing such a trying time. God Bless you and your family, and know that we are all praying for your safety, and that this entire situation gets resolved, and that everyone is able to move on and continue your important mission! Hugs and prayers!

  16. Our prayers are with now more than ever. You are right. God will prevail and He will help you through this. He even promises that good will come from this... Romans 8:28
    And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

    Love and prayers to you!!!

  17. praying for you and yours! keeping you in my thoughts daily!! love you guys!---debster428

  18. As I read this post, the words to "Shine your light on us" that we sang earlier that day in church rang through my head. Praying for you and your family and all the children involved.

  19. scared, sad, anxious & angry. You can have whatsoever you say. Death and Life are in the power of the tongue. We'll be praying...

  20. Hoping God does the right thing and shuts Joy in Hope down for the criminal actions they have taken part in and you get yours as well!


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